It is customary for the chatan and kallah (groom and bride) not to see each other for a week before the wedding. Therefore, before the ceremony the two must be kept in separate rooms until the badeken. At the Kabbalat Panim the kallah sits between her mother and mother-in-law and greets her guests. The chatan sings and shares divrei Torah (words of Torah) with his friends. During this time guests enjoy hors d’oeuvres and refreshments.
The kallah is likened to a queen and is usually seated in a “throne” or a special, decorative chair. Guests approach her and it is at this time that the kallah gives brachot (blessings) to her guests.
The chatan is likened to a king and is seated at a large table, surrounded by friends. The chatan’s reception is usually private while the kallah’s is usually public.
Customarily, it is also at this time that the ketubah is signed. In some circles, a plate is broken at this time, symbolizing the irreversible act of a marriage commitment.
With Pesach just around the corner, 613 Tiers brings you the first Chag (holiday) tips post! As Jews, we are blessed to celebrate many different important days throughout the year…in fact, not one week goes by without this luxury!! We would be amiss if we failed to recognize the boundless opportunities we have to make all these holidays special, beautiful, and enchanting! Besides, it’s a mitzvah to honor and elevate these special days with paying close attention to details! Would one not invite the king to the most elegant meal she could muster up? In addition, your wonderful presentation will wow your guests and excite your kids (and don’t forget to invite guests this Pesach- as that too is an important custom, see Chabad.org’s Hospitality post for further details on inviting guests). And if you have Pesach tips, please share, I’d love some inspiration of my own!
Tip #1: Traditional isn’t always bad.
Don’t toss the white linens! Just spice them up. Add a simple, but colorful napkin holder or a few decorative napkins.
Tip #2: Centerpieces are eye-catching and table transforming
You do not need to buy something extravagant. Look for pieces you have around the house…different size vases, fruit, perfume bottles…be creative, because centerpieces make all the difference at an event table!
Tip #3: Color is good!
My sister and I have been trying to tell my mother this for years. Do not have a fear of color! Be color committal!!
Taste with the Eyes
Hostess with the Mostess
Tip #4: Add a little whimsy
Passover is all about enticing the kids to participate, while also reminding adults of the child within them. Don’t forget about the chag while creating the table- make it a part of it! And make the kids want to be there. Look for toys, dolls, or pictures to spice up your seder.
I found this great seder table on Tastewiththeeyes.com.
Cupcakes are sweeping the wedding scene and are becoming more and more popular, intricate, sophisticated, charming, and, let’s just say it, fun! Below are just a few examples of the fabulous cupcakes you could use to dazzle your wedding guests…
Before the actual wedding ceremony, the badeken takes place. The groom, escorted by his father and father-in-law, proceed to the bride, who is seated among her mother and mother-in-law. The groom at this time veils the bride reciting the blessing given to Rebecca before she married Isaac.
This tradition of the badeken originates with the Biblical story of Rebecca and Isaac. The story goes that as Isaac approached Rebecca, his bride, she took her handkercheif and covered her face.
There are many ways to understand this tradition, but a common way of understanding it is that it accomplishes the concept of the chuppah. Chuppah, according to the Torah, means a groom “spreading a cloth” over his bride. Therefore, the badeken could be seen as accomplishing this law.